The thing is that my girl friend told me that she was awakened by a vivid and terrifying nightmare, in which her boyfriend was kneeling down in front of her, showing the ring and asking her to marry him. (OS: What? How can she describe such a romantic and pink scenery as a nightmare!!)
“Was that because your boyfriend showed you an ugly ring in the dream?” I asked. This was the only reasonable explanation coming cross my mind.
“No, it’s nothing to do with the ring. I just...not ready for it and to tell the truth I am afraid of marriage even though we have been together more than 8 years.” she replied.
I thought the commitment phobia only occurs in men. Obviously, I am wrong. It does exist in modern relationships and spreads like a epidemic disease. Maybe it’s because we fear of lost options or fear of making poor decisions. Let’s discuss this phenomenon this week and share your experiences to us!
Relative Materials:
Why are men scared of commitment? Their 10 reasons.
http://www.ivillage.com/why-are-men-scared-commitment-their-10-reasons/4-a-283799
Black men fear commitment (film)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=amc07-wfUcs
Discussion Questions:
1. Would you like to get married some day? If your answer is yes, why and when? Tons of people say “marriage is the tomb of love.” Do you agree or disagree with the statement? Why?
2. Except for Muslim, the most part of world adopt monogamy, which is a form of marriage that an individual has only one spouse, in consequence marriage becomes a ethic barrier which stops us to have another relationships. Do you think that the monogamy system results in commitment phobia?
3. Do you suffer from commitment phobia? Why? What are you afraid of? Give us your reasons.
4. In general cases, women tend to enter the marriage around 30 because of the biological limitations (the baby things); however, men have no age limitations. In this theory, women are suitable to married with older men, and men could be cradle robbers. Do you think what is the best age difference for husband and wife? Gentlemen, will you have a relationship with woman older than you or you prefer be a manther? Ladies, will you have a relationship with man younger than you or you prefer be a cougar?
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Dear all,
Since I may need to work overtime on Sunday this week, I am afraid that I could not join discussions this week. However, I'll try my best. Wish you a nice weekend.
Dears, I'm stuck in traffic on highway, now in Meowli and I have to drive the car back to my home in Taoyuan then go back to Taipei, so I'm not sure whether can catch our meeting in time, please excuse me first, I'll try my best.
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